This is a corny blog, based on an event from today, so just go with it, okay?
What would be your very first thought if … now be honest here … someone were to walk up, stand near you, and say, “Wow! I smelled you from way over there!”
Come on now, what was your very first thought or feeling? If you are honest, it might tell you something about yourself, maybe even something you really don’t want to admit. Think about it. I don’t have anything to back up what I’ve been thinking about today, but if we think about human nature and what we do know, I think you may agree with some of these. Think about it.
Did you wonder to yourself, “Who are they talking about?” Then look around to see who it is.
HA! You already assume it isn’t you. Why? How do you know it isn’t? What makes you so sure? Are you confident or cocky? Sure of yourself, or arrogant? There is a fine line between these, which side are you really on?
Did you think, “Wow! That was rude.” Not even giving it a thought as to whom they are speaking?
Why is it rude? Why did you assume it meant someone smelled bad? Maybe they thought it was a very pleasant smell. How did you come to a negative assumption? Didn’t even consider it could be a good smell, did you? Why?
Did you think to yourself, “Did I shower today?” Then take a quick whiff of yourself?
LOL! Not sure what this says, are you too busy to remember if you showered? Are you in the habit of skipping showers? Why did you automatically assume it was you? Why did you assume it was a bad smell? Do you tend to give a lot of weight to what people say about you? Do you tend to be a people pleaser? Worry about what other’s think of you?
Did you automatically have a reply ready in your head – or worse – did you speak it out? “Yeah well I could smell you from outside the room!”
Why are you so ready to throw another punch? Eye for an Eye? Worse yet, it’s most likely a falsehood, a lie, something you are saying just to try to make them feel bad … or is it to make yourself feel good? Why are you so quick to retaliate?
Did you speak up immediately and say, “No I don’t!”
Why are you so quick to think you don’t? Again, maybe it was a compliment to your cologne choice. Maybe it wasn’t you. Funny how you so quickly assumed it was all about you and what they said was not true about you. Do you normally toss aside what someone else has to say about you? Do you frequently assume everything is about you? Are you quick to defend yourself, no matter what?
Did you quickly wonder, “Who said that?“ and then look to see who it was.
This is an interesting response. First, it isn’t focused on the person who apparently smells. And second, you didn’t assume it was you. The question here is, why does it matter who said it? Will you judge whether the statement has merit based on who said it? Why? Why does who said it matter if it’s true? Hmmm. If it was a friend would it make you more likely to believe it? Or would you just laugh at it? If it was someone you didn’t like, would you doubt it to be true? What if it was someone you didn’t know?
Did you think, “I don’t smell anything.”
So if you don’t smell anything, there isn’t anything to smell right? Is that how it is? World according to you huh? Think about that one for a moment or two. Your reality is THE reality isn’t it?
Did you give a quick sniff and then think or say, “Oh, yeah, I smell it too.”
Do you? Why didn’t you smell it before? Do you tend to go with the flow of everyone else? Do you have ideas about things but never express them until someone else does? Why? Don’t you feel as though your thoughts have just as much merit as the next person? Why do you have to wait on someone else to confirm what you think or feel?
Did you respond with, “Oh, Thank you. I got it at Xyz Superstore on sale!”
We are back to wondering how you know it’s you, but at least you didn’t assume it was bad. ;o) How did you just automatically come to assume it was a compliment? And the compliment was about you? Of course, it couldn’t be anything else right? If you thought it was about someone else, would you have assumed it was a compliment as well?
Or did you look at the person and ask them, “Who are you talking too?” Or, “What smell are you talking about?”
Now we are getting somewhere. Now we are trying to get to some truth. You are trying to reach some understanding with the other person. Seeking knowledge.
What if it was about you? What if it was that you smelled bad? Would you deny it? Discard their opinion? Defend your smell? Begin to disprove the idea? Doubt that it is true? Or would you again, try to find out what they meant. Would you be willing to change something if it were true?
Yeah, this is a corny thing to talk about. But I heard someone say something similar to this today, and I couldn’t help think about how different people would react differently to this statement. How our reactions would say so much about ourselves. How we see ourselves. How we view other’s opinions. How we see the world around us. It’s worth thinking about. And if you didn’t like what it said about you, maybe you should try to change how you think. You can do it!
By the way, today when I heard this, it was about someone smelling good, so see, if you thought it was about someone stinking – well, I guess you have some Stinkin-Thinkin to work on now don’t ya. ;o) Try to be more approachable. Try to be someone who values other’s thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Be open minded. Seek to understand the situation before coming to conclusions. You are Free2Live Wise or Foolish. Which will you be?
There are a few Bible verses which could apply to this for those of us who call ourselves Christians.
The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge,
for the ears of the wise seek it out. Proverbs 18:15 (NIV)
An intelligent person is always eager to take in more truth;
fools feed on fast-food fads and fancies. Proverbs 15:15 (MSG)
If one gives an answer before he hears,
it is his folly and shame. Proverbs 18:13 (ESV)
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. Proverbs 4:7 (KJV)
Listen to counsel, receive instruction, and accept correction,
That you may be wise in the time to come. Proverbs 19:20 (AMP)