Ever run a three legged race with someone? I’ve watched people do it and think to myself, I wouldn’t do it that way. I would …. fill in the blank as I’m sure you have done the same, right? If you watch videos, you will notice most pairs start off strong, then, something happens and the struggles begin.
I have been divorced, but all totaled, I’ve been married for very close to half of my life now. Nothing has felt more like a three legged race than marriage. Just when you think you’ve hit stride, it gets a little bumpy. Just like in a 3-legged-race, the difference between those who successfully navigate these times and those who do not is how each individual reacts. It isn’t a matter of one being right and one being wrong, it’s about working as a team.
Watch a few videos of these races, some will have you laughing out loud! Those who fail usually have one partner who keeps on moving as though they are the only one running the race. Some don’t even care if their partner has fallen, they just keep on running anyway – dragging their partner behind them. Some trip their partner and then are mad at the partner because they fell.
Sometimes you see one person yelling at the other, blaming the other, frustrated by the situation. Watch enough videos and you may even see one or two unhook them self and take off running on their own. FAIL!
Those who succeed take time to communicate with one another. They hit the same bumps, but their navigation of those times are as a team, not as individuals. This is the key to their success.
If we could just stop and talk through the bumps in any of our relationships, not just marriage, we could be so much more successful in life. Own our part which makes it hard to succeed. Be willing to talk through what is happening and how to solve it so we can both be successful. Stop and as a team evaluate and decide where we are, how we are doing, where we are going, and how we can get there. Oh, how much better everything would be. We really are Free2Live in Harmony if we really want to.
So who are you in a three-legged -race with? How are you treating them? Have you asked them? Are you open to their suggestions and feedback? Are you brave enough to own up to your part and try to fix it? Shoulder your part of the race? How do you react when you don’t get your way or it gets hard to keep running? Are you doing everything you can to be Free2Live in Harmony?
Take a look at this video – we could do this, we really could! It just takes time, practice, communication and TEAM WORK! Are YOU ready for a 31 legged race??? WOW!
For those of us who call ourselves Christian, consider these verses:
18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. ~ Romans 12:18 (ESV)
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor;
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!
11 Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone?
12 And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.
~Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (AMP)